ABOUT THE DAY
A training day for people who work with people who have been hurt by people. A day about our intrinsic value as human beings, and how our experiences of relationships shape us—for ill or for good.
If therapy is all about the relationship, then what do you do when the client is really difficult to relate to—too much, too little, too close, too rejecting, too changeable, too untrusting, too controlling, too scared? Can you understand their behaviours as being logical in the light of their previous experiences? Can you show them the dignity and respect they need (and deserve)?
What do you do when the client ‘attaches’ too quickly or too intensely? Or seemingly fails to form an attachment at all?
Ever been stalked by a client one moment and dropped by them the next? Ever found yourself needing to be their solution, or feeling deskilled and incompetent? Or, in other words, ever been tripped up by disorganised attachment?
How is ‘attachment’ the nuts and bolts, here-
and- now, make- it- or- break- it stuff of the therapy relationship? How are mirroring and empathy transformative? What is attunement?
How do your own attachment experiences affect the way you handle (or avoid) conflict, establish and maintain boundaries (or fail to) and work collaboratively (or coercively) with the too-
much or the too- little client?
How can attachment theory inform your work with clients with even the most controversial of labels like borderline personality disorder or DID? Should you steer clear or will your own attachment security provide the secure base for them to explore their past, present and future?
Childhood trauma such as sexual abuse, neglect and physical violence inevitably represents a violation of boundaries. It constitutes a profound disregard for our wishes and feelings, as well as an invasion of our privacy and bodies. Rather than growing up with a secure attachment where our personal, physical and psychological boundaries are respected, as trauma survivors we have often grown up in toxic relationships. As a result, we may struggle to maintain our own boundaries as well as to respect other people’s. This can manifest in ‘enmeshed’ relationships where we are over-
This day will look in-
This day is NOT an introduction to Dissociative Identity Disorder and has a much broader application to all survivors of abuse as well as anyone who has experienced ‘toxic’ relationships . There will be a specific emphasis on dissociative survivors, but it will not be exclusive.
For information on the format of the day, times, refreshments and discounts/concessions please see Frequently Asked Questions page.
WHERE IS IT RUNNING?
Working with Relational Trauma (Peterborough 24 November)
Friday 24 November 2017